Failure is an option
I often hear clients, friends, and family members of all ages stating: “I feel stuck,” “Lost” or simply, “I don’t know what I’m doing with my life.” Does this sound familiar to you? These statements all resonate with me at different times throughout my life.
Such statements leave such a powerful impact on our lives which at times leave us operating in the same manner; creating high levels of stress and anxiety that we all too often become drained and overwhelmed.
These feelings of being “stuck” “lost” or “not knowing what to do” often come from an underlying feeling of fear of failing. But what is it exactly that terrifies us so much to fail?
Often times, I hear clients say how successful their friends/family members are in their careers and/or relationships that we become immobilized by the comparisons we see on Facebook, Instagram and other social media outlets. If you relate to this, my first response to you is “STOP!” Remember, people only place what they want others to perceive them as on these sites. Secondly, you are EXACTLY where you are for a PURPOSE—comparing yourself to others only hinders your progress not theirs! So take a deep BREATH and shut out that critical voice in your head!
Now, let’s talk about failure for a moment. We are constantly inundated with stories of success day after day from Fortune 500 companies to the Facebook Happy Marriage Challenge. We only see the success of others as were all terrified to show any remote images of our failures.
I propose a different perspective—Let’s be real for a second and talk about our failures. Let’s CELEBRATE THESE FAILURES and discuss our failed approaches before finally achieving our career success. Let’s APPRECIATE our terrible choices in past relationships, which mostly taught us what we DON’T WANT in our partners.
After all, success no matter how big or small does not come without its fair share of obstacles. Instead of fearing this failure—letting it control our thoughts, emotions, and actions; Let’s use these shared obstacles to learn and RECOVER from our personal challenges and the challenges of others in order to propel ourselves to a level of SUCCESS we’ve always dreamed of.
From this perspective, we make failing SAFE. So DREAM big, LOVE big, don’t be afraid to take big STRIDES, make things POSSIBLE, create PLANS and STRATEGIES to recover from the anticipated failures.
CHEERS… KEEP DREAMING!
If you or someone you know are struggling with a recent failure, or having a difficult time in a life transition, please do not hesitate to call me- I would love to walk along this journey with you.